A monologue in the style of America Ferrera’s character Gloria in the Barbie Movie (original script by Greta Gerwig).
It is literally impossible to be a woman in medicine. You can be at the top of your class in medical school and residency, and yet you will never think you’re good enough. Like, we have to always be infallible, but somehow, we’re made to feel it’s never enough. Even when we become attendings.
As a woman in medicine, you have to be assertive but not too aggressive. And you can never say you want to be ambitious. You have to say you want to be successful, but also you have to be humble. You need a nice wardrobe but can’t ask for equal pay because that’s crass.
You have to be a leader, but you can’t be bossy. You have to run the code, but you can’t talk over other people. You’re supposed to find time to be a mother, but don’t expect anyone to cover for you when you take maternity leave. You have to constantly be thinking of your CV, but also always be a team player.
You have to ignore men’s bad behavior, which is ridiculous, but if you point that out, you’re gaslighted. You’re supposed to stay attractive for men but not so attractive that you stand out or that you threaten other women because then the nurses won’t respect you or follow your orders.
But always be the last one to leave and always be resilient.
But never forget that the system is rigged.
So find a way to acknowledge that but also always be resilient.
You have to never get tired, never be wrong, never brag, never ask for time off, never sleep, never fail, never be late, never be out of childcare. It’s too exhausting! It’s too contradictory and nobody gives you a medal or a raise.
And it turns out, in fact, that not only does research show patient outcomes are better for women physicians than men, but also you’re still not getting equal pay. To the tune of two million dollars less over the course of a career.
I’m just so tired of watching myself and every other woman in medicine tie herself into knots to reach some impossible standard that doesn’t exist. And still, despite all our hard work, we often won’t be called “Doctor.”
Originally published on KevinMD on Jan 6, 2024
Also published by MedPage Today on Jan 13, 2024
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